Anonymous said: Hi. so i kinda feel stupid for asking this but could you please explain to me what bisexuality and pansexuality is in simple words. They way i've seen them described on tumblr (and other sites) just completely throws me like something in my brain just isnt clicking ( i have this problem with other subjects too but thats a problem for another day)

genderqueerbarnes:

ninetimesthepain:

mresundance:

luvkurai:

xzombiexkittenx:

songsaboutjanie:

imaginehanniballecter:

Bisexuality is attraction to both men and women. Pansexuality is attraction to all sexes and gender identities.I hope that helps clear things up!

Bisexuality is the attraction to two or more genders. This can look like what you described above, but it doesn’t have to. 

Pansexuality is the attraction to all genders. 

There is definitely room for overlap between the two identities so it really comes down to individual choice in which term makes someone the most comfortable. 

Bisexuality DOES NOT MEAN you only date men and women.

I’d never even heard of pansexuality until maybe eight years ago. We just called it bisexuality and it wasn’t gay and it wasn’t straight.

People constantly saying that bi people won’t/don’t date trans* or genderqueer/fluid people is not a helpful thing to say because it’s not true.

Bisexuals get a lot of shit. We don’t need the pan community telling us who we do and don’t date. Honestly I sometimes think that people came up with ‘pan’ just so they wouldn’t have to call themselves bisexual. (I am very frustrated, can you tell?)

I have never once understood what the difference is. I have never had someone explain it to me in a way that made any sense.

This has been a message from a very frustrated bisexual who dates across the spectrum.

imo bisexuality and pansexuality are the same thing. different names for an identical sexuality, the latter simply an updated version to account for the indisputable existence of more than two genders.

yup. they are the same. 

pansexuality is just the new term for it

i’m technically bisexual, and trans, and i definitely am attracted to people who fall outside of “men” and “women”

???No?

Sorry to suddenly post so very out-of-character for this blog, but there’s some misinformation I need to clear up.

There’s no need for a “new term” for bisexuality, because bisexuality still works fine. Bisexuality has different meanings for different people, but most agree that it’s a sexual attraction to two genders, usually one’s own and another gender. This is different from pansexuality, which is sexual attraction regardless of gender— pansexuals may be attracted to cis, trans, nonbinary, genderqueer, and a multitude of other people, because gender isn’t a deciding factor in whether or not they’re attracted to someone. (Also, many bisexuals often fall in love with people outside of the two main genders they’re attracted to, just like straight people, lesbians, and gay men sometimes do, because gender and attraction are weird and shit happens. There’s no reason why this should instantly ban them from identifying as bisexual, when many monosexuals who find themselves attracted to other genders still keep their preferred labels— as well they should.)

Also, “pansexuality” is hardly a new term. It was used in the early 20th century to describe the theories of Sigmund Freud, who believed that pretty much everything humans do is motivated by sex. Its use to describe a sexual orientation, however, is relatively new, and in my opinion a much better usage of the word. 

The reason people claim that pansexuality is a better term than bisexuality is that bisexuality is often interpreted by people (most of whom are not actually bisexual) to mean sexual attraction to men and women only, often incorrectly called an attraction to “both genders”. This is problematic, because it assumes that man and woman are the only two genders and erases everything else. It’s also a ridiculous criticism, because you don’t have to be attracted to someone to acknowledge that their identities are real. I’ve never heard anyone claim that gay men, lesbians, and straight people erase non-binary identities, even those who are attracted exclusively to cisgender people. So why do bisexuals get this criticism all the time?

Claiming that bisexuality and pansexuality are the same thing, or that bisexuals should identify as pansexuals instead, or that all self-identifying bisexuals are problematic is quite biphobic. Policing our identities splits up the bisexual community and harms bisexuals who are told that their identities are oppressive. Bisexual teens already have a higher suicide rate than straight or monosexual teens, so being split up, re-labeled, and told our identities aren’t real hardly helps.

TL;DR: Bisexual = attraction to two genders; Pansexual = attraction to any gender/regardless of gender— but even this should be taken with a grain of salt, because gender, sex, and sexuality are weird and there’s an exception to every rule. Just respect however people choose to identify and you’ll do fine.

Further reading:

Pansexuality VS Bisexuality

The difference between Pansexuality & Bisexuality

Pansexual: A ‘New’ Sexual Orientation? (Although this is one of the ones that claims bisexuals are attracted to just males and females, it’s otherwise good)

A Critical Look At The Word “Pansexual” (This one is a bit problematic because it claims that “pansexual” exists ONLY to erase bi identities. But if you read it as “A Critical Look At Claiming Bisexuals Should All Be Called Pansexual”, it’s a very good explanation.)

Brief correction to the above commentary:

Most of the leading bisexual organizations define bisexuality as the attraction to two or more genders, or the attraction to same and other genders.

When doing educational posts like this, please spread the more inclusive definitions, as doing otherwise leaves bisexuality open for misconceptions and can imply that bisexuality is inherently binarist. As in, people will see the definition as “attraction to two genders” and immediately jump to the conclusion that it means “men and women.”

The more inclusive definitions (“two or more” and “same and other”) leaves no room for confusion in that regard, as well as avoids alienating bisexuals who are attracted to more than two genders, or even all genders.

It seems like such a small thing, I just feel that the distinction is really important to make.

Okay, because it’s been weighing on my mind since I first saw this post, I want to bring a pan perspective into this conversation, since I do think that we’re being sorely under- (and mis-, if I’m being honest) represented here—i.e., we’ve got people trying to define our sexualities for us based on what their other, non-pan sexualities aren’t, plus a huge whiff of panphobia and “oh those silly made-up sexualities” to boot.

As a pan person, I define pansexuality as really, honestly being okay with sex with any/all genders.  The analogy I use the most (and did last night when talking about exactly the kinds of attitudes I’ve seen in this post with littleowls3, who had never encountered them before) is light switches: monosexuals have one light switch that flips up or down.  Bisexuals have a bank of switches that flip up or down.  Pans have a dimmer knob.

I’ll admit that I get confused by bisexuals who claim the title of bisexual but profess attraction to all genders, because that doesn’t hit my ear as “bi” (meaning two, but adapted to mean more than that as more genders become more widely known)—it’s “pan”.  It’s better served with “poly”, the way we refer to religions: monotheistic believes in one god, no matter which one.  Polytheistic believes in multiple gods, but not all.  Pantheistic believes in all gods, regardless of origin.

The important thing is that I’m not going to tell someone I don’t believe they’re bisexual.  I’m never going to say “you’re using the word wrong” or “you’re just using that term to make yourself feel better/more special.”  That’s disrespectful of that person’s identity and it’s policing/gatekeeping, and it needs to stop.  My sexual identity does not threaten yours, and it really doesn’t threaten yours being taken seriously, and the respectability politics need to stop.  We need to stop with panphobic jokes and “I don’t believe in pansexuality” because you have no right to determine that mine doesn’t exist, that it needs to be called something else, or that I’m only doing it for brownie points.

And please don’t lump me into a different category just because it makes it easier for you to understand.  That’s not fair to me or to you, because you’re not really understanding me if that’s what you have to do to get me.

Anonymous said: Hi. so i kinda feel stupid for asking this but could you please explain to me what bisexuality and pansexuality is in simple words. They way i've seen them described on tumblr (and other sites) just completely throws me like something in my brain just isnt clicking ( i have this problem with other subjects too but thats a problem for another day)

genderqueerbarnes:

ninetimesthepain:

mresundance:

luvkurai:

xzombiexkittenx:

songsaboutjanie:

imaginehanniballecter:

Bisexuality is attraction to both men and women. Pansexuality is attraction to all sexes and gender identities.I hope that helps clear things up!

Bisexuality is the attraction to two or more genders. This can look like what you described above, but it doesn’t have to. 

Pansexuality is the attraction to all genders. 

There is definitely room for overlap between the two identities so it really comes down to individual choice in which term makes someone the most comfortable. 

Bisexuality DOES NOT MEAN you only date men and women.

I’d never even heard of pansexuality until maybe eight years ago. We just called it bisexuality and it wasn’t gay and it wasn’t straight.

People constantly saying that bi people won’t/don’t date trans* or genderqueer/fluid people is not a helpful thing to say because it’s not true.

Bisexuals get a lot of shit. We don’t need the pan community telling us who we do and don’t date. Honestly I sometimes think that people came up with ‘pan’ just so they wouldn’t have to call themselves bisexual. (I am very frustrated, can you tell?)

I have never once understood what the difference is. I have never had someone explain it to me in a way that made any sense.

This has been a message from a very frustrated bisexual who dates across the spectrum.

imo bisexuality and pansexuality are the same thing. different names for an identical sexuality, the latter simply an updated version to account for the indisputable existence of more than two genders.

yup. they are the same. 

pansexuality is just the new term for it

i’m technically bisexual, and trans, and i definitely am attracted to people who fall outside of “men” and “women”

???No?

Sorry to suddenly post so very out-of-character for this blog, but there’s some misinformation I need to clear up.

There’s no need for a “new term” for bisexuality, because bisexuality still works fine. Bisexuality has different meanings for different people, but most agree that it’s a sexual attraction to two genders, usually one’s own and another gender. This is different from pansexuality, which is sexual attraction regardless of gender— pansexuals may be attracted to cis, trans, nonbinary, genderqueer, and a multitude of other people, because gender isn’t a deciding factor in whether or not they’re attracted to someone. (Also, many bisexuals often fall in love with people outside of the two main genders they’re attracted to, just like straight people, lesbians, and gay men sometimes do, because gender and attraction are weird and shit happens. There’s no reason why this should instantly ban them from identifying as bisexual, when many monosexuals who find themselves attracted to other genders still keep their preferred labels— as well they should.)

Also, “pansexuality” is hardly a new term. It was used in the early 20th century to describe the theories of Sigmund Freud, who believed that pretty much everything humans do is motivated by sex. Its use to describe a sexual orientation, however, is relatively new, and in my opinion a much better usage of the word. 

The reason people claim that pansexuality is a better term than bisexuality is that bisexuality is often interpreted by people (most of whom are not actually bisexual) to mean sexual attraction to men and women only, often incorrectly called an attraction to “both genders”. This is problematic, because it assumes that man and woman are the only two genders and erases everything else. It’s also a ridiculous criticism, because you don’t have to be attracted to someone to acknowledge that their identities are real. I’ve never heard anyone claim that gay men, lesbians, and straight people erase non-binary identities, even those who are attracted exclusively to cisgender people. So why do bisexuals get this criticism all the time?

Claiming that bisexuality and pansexuality are the same thing, or that bisexuals should identify as pansexuals instead, or that all self-identifying bisexuals are problematic is quite biphobic. Policing our identities splits up the bisexual community and harms bisexuals who are told that their identities are oppressive. Bisexual teens already have a higher suicide rate than straight or monosexual teens, so being split up, re-labeled, and told our identities aren’t real hardly helps.

TL;DR: Bisexual = attraction to two genders; Pansexual = attraction to any gender/regardless of gender— but even this should be taken with a grain of salt, because gender, sex, and sexuality are weird and there’s an exception to every rule. Just respect however people choose to identify and you’ll do fine.

Further reading:

Pansexuality VS Bisexuality

The difference between Pansexuality & Bisexuality

Pansexual: A ‘New’ Sexual Orientation? (Although this is one of the ones that claims bisexuals are attracted to just males and females, it’s otherwise good)

A Critical Look At The Word “Pansexual” (This one is a bit problematic because it claims that “pansexual” exists ONLY to erase bi identities. But if you read it as “A Critical Look At Claiming Bisexuals Should All Be Called Pansexual”, it’s a very good explanation.)

Brief correction to the above commentary:

Most of the leading bisexual organizations define bisexuality as the attraction to two or more genders, or the attraction to same and other genders.

When doing educational posts like this, please spread the more inclusive definitions, as doing otherwise leaves bisexuality open for misconceptions and can imply that bisexuality is inherently binarist. As in, people will see the definition as “attraction to two genders” and immediately jump to the conclusion that it means “men and women.”

The more inclusive definitions (“two or more” and “same and other”) leaves no room for confusion in that regard, as well as avoids alienating bisexuals who are attracted to more than two genders, or even all genders.

It seems like such a small thing, I just feel that the distinction is really important to make.

"I have such a crush on Mark Gatiss. I’d like to cast him in anything. I think he’s hilarious and brilliant, and such a talented actor and a talented writer, so I would love to work with him in any capacity."

— Bryan Fuller (x)

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Ben Whishaw for GQ Magazine 2012

goldenheartedrose:

falconwhitaker:

bookgeekconfessions:

I wanted to double check that “The Cherry on Top” was a short novel or novella and I found this on uphillwriting.org. I think it’s very informative and hopefully you guys will find it useful!

Good friends, this list is wonderful, but it’s missing something!

Internet Articles

800 words maximum

OOH.

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rehfan:

beaubete:

rehfan:

I know I’ve said it before, but he really does look like the best damn kisser

But he did *kissing lessons* for Bright Star. He’s a learned scholar!

OH MY GOD!!
What is this adorableness?!?
PLEASE tell me where you learned this!

I saw it in forbiddenarchives's post here, where you can find the quote from Jane.  Then again, I’m imagining just who he might have been practicing with….  (the results are searingly hot and ridiculously adorable kisses on film, and probably a very satisfied Mr. at home!)

Anonymous said: Just wanted to leave a thank you for your "The Hour" fanfics, which I stumbled on this evening. I just watched the show for the first time, and obviously needed closure!fic afterward, like everyone I suppose. I thought yours had some of the strongest characterization and writing and also loved how sensual they were. Many thanks!

Thank you, nonnie.  I really kicked myself in the teeth last night, and I appreciate your message—it couldn’t be more perfectly timed.  

I need to rewatch The Hour so I can write more!  I love writing Freddie and Bel and their weird friendship/antagonism/romance!

rehfan:

I know I’ve said it before, but he really does look like the best damn kisser

But he did *kissing lessons* for Bright Star. He’s a learned scholar!

bigthingscomeinblueboxes:

A gentleman is simply a patient wolf. ~Lana Turner

Daniel Craig as James Bond

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forbiddenarchives:

bahaghari:

favorite ben whishaw roles: stalking daniel craig edition

  • the trench (1999)
  • enduring love (2004)
  • layer cake (2004)
  • skyfall (2012)

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charlidos:






It’s true, it is only a job. It can lead you astray, it can make you think that you’re the king of the fucking world, the acting business. You get offered a lot of things very quickly, you can believe the hype, you can get driven around places, you get free invites, people love you when really they don’t think anything about you, they think you’re wonderful when really they couldn’t give a fuck about you. There’s an awful lot of hype out there and it can just tear you apart, but it’s only you that will do that, if you allow it.

- A young Tom Hardy, talking about being an actor. Now, he’s handling all this very, very well so far, I think. :)

charlidos:

It’s true, it is only a job. It can lead you astray, it can make you think that you’re the king of the fucking world, the acting business. You get offered a lot of things very quickly, you can believe the hype, you can get driven around places, you get free invites, people love you when really they don’t think anything about you, they think you’re wonderful when really they couldn’t give a fuck about you. There’s an awful lot of hype out there and it can just tear you apart, but it’s only you that will do that, if you allow it.

- A young Tom Hardy, talking about being an actor. Now, he’s handling all this very, very well so far, I think. :)

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Now if you’ll excuse me, I have a show to go on air tonight that I must attend to. Must be those maternal instincts again. 

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